Valentine's Day the Long Distance Way

With Valentine’s Day coming up this week it seems like everything around is pink (and maybe a little bit of red). We know that pink is my favorite color, so I definitely don’t mind these little added pops of color around. If you don’t already know, I moved across the country for grad school which put me in a long distance relationship. While it’s not an ideal situation I firmly believe that the time apart is worth it. That being said, holiday’s like Valentine’s Day are not always the easiest to handle when your person is so far away.

So, whether you are single, attached or attached and not with your person. Here are a few tips and tricks for getting through the week!

  1. Enjoy the little things: As cliche as it may sound, this is something we all probably need to work on a little more anyway, whether Valentine’s Day or not. Take a moment to realize what you have, whether that’s in your relationship or in your life.

  2. Treat yourself: There’s nothing wrong with indulging in some heart-shaped chocolates every now and then, if that’s what you’re into. Personally, I would much rather get my nails done or get a massage, but it’s up to you!

  3. Embrace the season: Whether you think Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday or not, I see nothing wrong with celebrating some of the joys in life. I would argue that love is one of those things we all need a little more of in our lives, or at least to notice it more. There will always be struggles to bring down your spirits, so having a day dedicated to love in any form (near, far or yet to be found) should be celebrated.

  4. Wear a lot of pink: Ok, maybe this is just for me. But we know that is also just a general guideline for my life and not specific to Valentine’s Day.

  5. Make your person’s day special: You don’t have to be physically in the same place as somebody to let them know that you care. It’s rarely about an extravagant gift and, more often than not, the acknowledgement of how much you mean to them. This could be as simple as a phone call or acknowledgement of the day.

  6. Don’t be afraid to be cheesy: So many of the Valentine’s Day gifts and gestures we see are incredibly cheesy, and that’s totally ok. If you know the gift I sent up to Alaska you will know exactly what I am talking about.

  7. Plan ahead: Whether you are single or attached, there is nothing worse than spending Valentine’s Day with out a plan and feeling completely alone. Make a plan to do something, like making dinner (potentially via FaceTime for those in an LDR), watching a movie, going to a fabulous workout, drinking wine and doing a face mask or any combination of what makes you happy. The last thing you want to do is sit at home feeling alone without anything to do.


My Valentine might be far away, but that doesn’t mean I have to be sad about it. It’s an opportunity to think about just how lucky I am to have him. I know that one day, we will be able to be in the same location for longer than a few weeks but for now this will just have to do.

Need some last minute PINK inspiration? Here are a few little gifts to inspire you!

Ellie Gottstein